Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Love Lives

We talk about loss a great deal when we contemplate our breast cancer. One of the main reasons I wrote Intimacy After Breast Cancer, Dealing with Your Body, Your Relationships and Sex, was because I wanted to share the tremendous capacity for hope the world still holds for each and every one of you.

It is not over. Not if you don't let it be. Live your lives - live them to the fullest. Embrace all you have and reach for all you want.

Today, this post is for the single survivors. Remember, all men are not created equal.  As I advise in the book, you must separate the men from the boys. Then find your fellow traveler and let yourself fall in love with love him and let him love you.

Yes, your body has changed, but a real man, not a boy, is not making love to your breasts, he wants all of you. If you don't like how your reconstruction looks, get it fixed! Share the excitement you have for the new outcome with your new lover. If he is real, he will support you.

So today, let us think about Christina Applegate. Diagnosed with breast cancer, underwent a bilateral mastectomy and reconstruction and now she is not only in love with a wonderful man who supported her when she needed someone the most, but they are also expecting their first child.

To quote Walt Disney, "If you can dream it, you can do it."

Congratulations, Christina. Shine on.

Christina Applegate is going to be a mother.
US Magazineonline

The actress, 38, and her fiance, musician Martyn Lenoble, are expecting their first child, her rep tells US Magazine

Applegate and Lenoble, 41, got engaged this past Valentine's Day after two years of dating. (They have not revealed a wedding date. This will be the second marriage for both.)
Applegate has credited Lenoble, a founding member of 90s alternative rock band Porno for Pyros, with helping her overcome her battle with breast cancer. After her 2008 diagnosis, she underwent a double mastectomy, then reconstructive surgery.

"I have a small but mighty support system and Martyn has really been an incredible part of my life," Applegate previously told Us. "Without him, I don't know if I could've gone through any of it. He came around at a time when there was a lot of loss in my life on many levels, so he's been a really incredible help."

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