Sunday, January 27, 2008

Time to Live

How many times have you been told that you must have a positive attitude to beat your cancer? I can't count the number of times I have been graced with such wisdom. I don't think having a positive attitude makes cancerous cells divide slower, or keeps a lung tumor from growing or even helps you ace that PET scan. In fact, some of the most upbeat, positive people I know are dead.

However, I have learned and witnessed that not letting your disease define you and not being dragged down by the weight of all the pretty harsh things that come with it, makes living a whole lot more enjoyable.

It breaks down to this: you are diagnosed, you are treated, you go back to your life. What are you going to with that life you are going back to? You could be bitter and dwell in the fact you were dealt such an unfair hand or you could live. Really and truly LIVE. No one knows how long they have on this earth, but we were given a clue that our warranty may not be the best on the lot.

Recently, there was a terrible accident where a man was sitting in his living room, watching TV, minding his own business, when a car careened across his lawn and through his front window and killed him instantly. He never saw it coming. He never had a chance to say good bye to his loved ones. He never got his personal life in order.

We can do that now. We were given a warning that our time may be shorter than other people's time. We can get our personal lives in order. We can make that trip to a relative we haven't seen in ages. We can say "I'm sorry" to someone we know is hurting. We can do the things we never dared doing but now, suddenly, we have the courage to take that first step.

While we may not be able to control our cancer with our attitudes, we can control our lives. We all have a list of "if only's " in our heads. Our wake-up call has given us the opportunity to go ahead and find out about remedying past regrets or taking that risk we were always so afraid of before we knew what real fear really was.

We can choose what memories we want to make and what we want to remember and how we want to be remembered.

Make that call.
Give that hug.
Say, "I love you."
Forget that fight.
Remember what you love.
Remember who loves you.
Tell them.
Little things are just that- little things.
Take the dare and do it.

Time is slipping by for everyone on this earth. Some of us are lucky enough to know it and do something about it.

1 comment:

danahollis said...

WOW! I love this post so much. This is so EXACTLY how I feel.

Grab your life by the horns and just live each day fully and with conviction. Cherish each and every moment... because we never know when it will be our last.

You ROCK, NS! I {heart} you!